Miscarriage, Pregnancy Loss, and Reproductive Grief
When you've experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, termination for medical reasons (TFMR), or abortion, you may find yourself carrying a weight that feels invisible to the world but overwhelming inside of you.
Life after loss can look like:
Having many complicated emotions: loneliness, anger, guilt, shame, grief…
Feeling alone and isolated from others; like nobody could possibly understand how this feels
Wondering if you’ll ever survive this grief—or feel joy again
Obsessing over the “what ifs” and “whys” that no one seems able to answer
These emotions are real. Your pain is valid. And you are not alone.
Life After Loss Can Feel Unrecognizable
Grief after reproductive loss is often unacknowledged or misunderstood. You may be surrounded by people who don’t know what to say, who avoid the topic entirely, or who offer unhelpful platitudes like:
"Everything happens for a reason."
"At least you know you can get pregnant."
"It wasn’t meant to be."
This kind of disenfranchised grief can leave you feeling even more isolated. You might:
Avoid baby showers, pregnant friends, or scrolling social media
Feel angry when others seem to move on while you’re still hurting
Want to talk about your loss, but feel shame for bringing it up
Experience waves of sadness, anxiety, numbness, or rage with no clear warning
These are all normal responses to an experience that is far from normal. Grieving a pregnancy or infant loss is a uniquely painful journey—and one you shouldn’t have to walk alone.
When the World Keeps Moving, but You're Standing Still
Common Experiences After Loss:
Emotional rollercoasters: crying one minute, numb the next
Intrusive thoughts about the loss or how things could have gone differently
Strained relationships due to processing grief differently
Guilt around past decisions or perceived failures
Shame for feeling anger, envy, or resentment
Isolation and avoidance of public spaces where triggers might occur
You might also be navigating abortion after a complicated diagnosis or choosing to terminate a pregnancy for your own personal reasons. These decisions are never made lightly—and they, too, deserve space, support, and compassion.
You are not alone.
What Therapy Offers
Healing after reproductive loss isn’t about forgetting. It’s about learning how to live with your story—and giving yourself permission to keep living fully.
In therapy, you can:
Process your thoughts and emotions without judgment
Give yourself compassion for doing the best you could in an impossible situation
Unlearn unhelpful cultural or internalized beliefs about grief, parenthood, or decision-making
Learn grounding tools and coping strategies to help you manage grief in daily life
Create rituals or language to honor your loss in a way that feels meaningful to you
Explore how to navigate relationships, intimacy, and future reproductive choices
You get to decide what healing looks like..
A Space for All Reproductive Stories
I have experience supporting clients through:
Miscarriage
Stillbirth
Infant loss
Abortion
Termination for medical reasons (TFMR)
Every reproductive journey is different, and every story deserves to be treated with dignity, care, and respect. Whether your loss occurred recently or many years ago, you deserve space to grieve, reflect, and explore the messiness.
Asking for help is hard. I’m so glad you are here.
As a perinatal and reproductive therapist, I hold space for the complexity of your experience—without trying to fix, rush, or minimize it. Together, we will walk gently toward healing, on your terms.
FAQs
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For the first session, you and the therapist will meet by video for 60 minutes. In this session, you will:
Get to know each other
Discuss your personal and emotional goals
Decide how often and how long to meet for future sessions
You can bring your stories, your pain, your questions. The therapist will bring education, skills, and gentle guidance to support your healing journey.
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There is no one-size-fits-all answer—therapy takes as long as it takes.
You and your therapist will use the goals set in your first session as a guidepost to track your progress.Most clients see meaningful improvement within 3 to 6 months, though many continue longer or revisit therapy during different life transitions. You are always welcome to:
Set new goals
Explore new parts of your story
Take breaks and return as needed
Your path is yours to define.
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The therapist’s role is to create a nonjudgmental, safe, and supportive space where you can:
Share your thoughts and feelings
Receive evidence-based education and coping strategies
Explore your thoughts, behaviors, and beliefs
Consider alternative perspectives or reframes
Together, you and your therapist will build a relationship rooted in trust, compassion, and personal growth.